BRAMHACHRYA, and Chastity Male and Female sexuality and Religeous thinking,Sexual frequency.Ancient boundaries about sexual behavior

BRAMHACHRYA, and Chastity Male and Female sexuality and Religeous thinking,Sexual frequency.Ancient boundaries about sexual behavior

Since ancient culture, sexual behavior of man remained a controversial Issue. Different thoughts were given, by various social, religious, spiritual, aesthetic, thinkers, this is due to changing scenario existed in different periods of history, and in different sociocultural behavior.

In Indian thinking of rishis, the one side of coin says total abstinence from sexual behavior even thought of sex is disregarded.

While on other side of coin KAMASHASTRAs was written, AJANTA ELLORA, and KHAJURAHOcaves were created, and CHARVAAK the thinker of EAT DRINK BE MARRY AND DIE gave his thought to the society.

Although both above thought appears contradictory to each other, like every coin that have its two aspects (har sikke ke do pahalu hote hain) here on deep thinking both thought appears correct at different situation.

In initial 25yrs (bramhacharya) life or in immature age if a person is not restricted from sexual activity apart from disoriented from achieving goal of education he may be indulge in diseases like STD, AIDS, immoral life, crime (rape, homosexuality, prostitution, bestiality or other form of unnatural sex) or she may get pregnant .the teenage premarital pregnancy is shame for parents more risky to individual girl and restriction in future good marriage. If the student ones involved in sexual activity, he or she may find difficult to refrain themselves from activity.


On the other hand in Grihasth ashram the husband and wife are allowed to have sexual intercourse as per desire of couple’s interest (according to medical science and religiously safe). Hence Charvak thoughts and teaching of Kamasutra with exhibition of, caves of Ajanta ellora and khajuraho appeared, even in ancient culture, because it is the responsibility of each partner to sexually satisfy each other. The excessive sexual behavior which is prohibited denotes to the couple who performs sexuality with other than husband or wife (promiscuity which is unsafe according to medical science and religiously).




REASONS WHY SEXUAL DESIRE SO STRONG

The sexual desire ‘LUST’ is one of strongest desire among five primary Impulses i.e.Kam (sex), Kroadha (anger), Madh (madness ego), Lobha (greed), Moha (Affection)
According to shastra’s the impulse are basic natural instincts which are to be kept in control, the diversion of the direction of these impulses can be achieved by spiritual and religious thinking only.
The sexual activity is a strong irresistible, difficult to control, natural (biological), instinct, of organism. By this process of sexual reproduction every organism protects his species from extinction and becomes immortal. It is programmed inside every organism by Nature (religiously say god) for progression of species. The sexual behavior remained a major reason behind ancient and past wars, human conflicts and cut throat heinous, bloody competition leading to crimes, and still present, will remain fore ever. According to shastra it was very difficult to even rishis to have control over this desire.
The human is among the rarest organism whether male or female who may remain sexually active throughout the year .otherwise other animals are sexually active only when estrous cycle appears in female. Due to this estrous cycle animals are sexually active only for certain period in a year. , in human the activity if not controlled, they will not abstain from sexual activity due to behavior of sexual activity throughout the year, and the whole life may be lost purposeless.




Purpose (Goal) of life

According to some individuals the Purpose ( Goal) of life may be i.e. Courage, Persistence, Love, Creativity, Dreams and Aspiration, Happiness and joy, religious goal to get into heavon,Earn a lot of money, Sexual pleasure, and others say that it is intended to evaluate your progress and inspire further progress in the realization of your life purpose. Every one deals with one aspect of life no one provides complete solution.



Solution to this problem is only found in Ancient VEDAS, in four Vedas the Purpose (Goal) of life

The Balanced Aim of life which includes all above in planned way given by VEDAS (the purpose of life) is divided into four purusharthas, Dharma (religion), Artha (earn money), Kama (work and sex), and Moksha(achieving divine stage of heaven).
The life cycle also was divided, in four Ashram’s, to achieve above goals
Initial 25 yrs as bramhacharya ashram, Next 25 yrs as Grihasth ashram, after middle 25 yrs as Vanprasth ashram and last 25 yrs as Sanyas ashram


n the Bramhacharya ashram one should complete its education for future life, the students after childhood were sent to gurukulas and the education was provided there. The students in the bramhacharya period are in teen age and in early youthful life, they have a weak and controllable desire for sexual activity. They have few opportunities for sex may be able to maintain themselves as virgins till marriage, and always advised to divert the thinking of sexuality towards gaining knowledge.
For non-Brahmachari those with stronger desires and more opportunities would find it difficult to abstain from premarital sexuality. In modern life the emergence of AIDS, the sexually transmitted disease has created the demand to be Brahmachari (abstinent) life which is only solution to problem. I am giving the example of U.S Bush government


Over the last decade, abstinence-only sex education became more common in the U.S., largely as a result of federal government funding initiatives. Through direct funding and matching grant incentives, the U.S. government steered more than a billion dollars to abstinence-only education programs between 1996 and 2006
.> Abstinence-only sex education - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia




Ways to Express Love without Sex before marriage

there are millions of nonsexual ways to show someone you like them. You can show a person you care for them by spending time with them. Go to the movies. Or just hang out and talk. If you are with someone you really like, then anything can be fun. There are other ways to feel physically close without having sex. These ways include everything from kissing and hugging to touching and petting each other. Just remember that if you're not careful these activities can lead to sex. Plan beforehand just how far you want to go, and stick to your limits. It can be difficult to say NO and mean it when things get hot and heavy.





What is abstinence?

Abstinence
The word for not having sex is called abstinence. The teenage years bring a lot of changes, he or she feels about themselves, No matter what their feelings on sex are, it may be smart to wait until something "feels right.” to be married. The premarital sexuality should be avoided.





Some teenagers and youths, especially think it's not good to wait to have sex they performs premarital sex, they think that abstinence is a completely bad thing. Actually, there are some really good things about abstinence and some of them might apply to everybody
They should also have to think about their own personal values and feelings.





Abstinence according to Hindu religion is ‘the voluntary restraint from indulging a desire or appetite for certain bodily activities that are widely experienced as giving pleasure’.
Most frequently, the term refers to Abstinence from sexual intercourse, alcohol or food.

The practice can arise from religious prohibitions or practical considerations. Abstinence has diverse forms.
Commonly it refers to a temporary or partial abstinence from food, as in fasting. Because, the regimen is intended to be a conscious act, freely chosen to enhance life, it is the way to have control on indriyas (five senses) to achieve Goal of life .In the bramhacharya life if student has control on his desires, he must divert his all desires in direction to complete his education. The abstinence which is complete, voluntary restraint from indulging sexual activity termed as Celibacy. Either to being unmarried, or to sexual abstinence. Celibacy is sometimes used as a synonym for "abstinence" or "chastity."



What are various reasons of ABSTINANCE (celibacy)
Sexual abstinence is the practice of voluntarily refraining from some or all aspects of sexual activity. Common reasons to deliberately abstain from the physical expression of sexual desire include


1. Religious reasons ABSTINANCE (celibacy)are practiced by priests, saints, of religion or any one who wants to achieve spiritual goal. In VEDAS this way is advised for Sanyas ashram life. In Buddhism, the main goal of living according to the celibate is to eliminate desire. Desire is seen as one of the main causes of suffering, both in the world as in the mind or heart. A commonly-used metaphor sees desire, especially sexual desire, to be like drinking salty water: the more one consumes, the greater the desire - and the worse one's (mental) state of health becomes. . All the spiritual leaders have been true celibates. Jesus, SankaraCharya, Swami Dayananda Samarth Guru Ramdas Swami Dayananda were all celibates.
It is worth repeating that a true celibate possesses tremendous energy, a clear brain, gigantic will-power, bold understanding, retentive memory and good Vichara Sakti (power of enquiry, concentration). Swami Dayananda stopped the carriage of a Maharaja (great king). He broke the sword with his hands. This was due to his power of celibacy


2. Philosophical reasons (e.g. chastity), means the act of not to be promiscuous, having sex only with the person to whom he or she is married. This type of sexual abstinence is advised for Grihasth ashram. Mahatma Gandhi Ji, Swami Ramkrishna paramhans the Guru of swami Vivekananda also bowed for celibacy belonged to philosophical reasons.


. Material reasons to prevent conception (undesired pregnancy) may be practiced where one couple do not desire for further issue, This is the way which is advised for certain duration(abstinence usually 10th day to18th day) during menstrual cycle month by many persons to family planning (contraception


4. To prevent STD disease transmission, Abstinence from promiscuity.


5. psycho-sociological reasons (e.g. clinical depression, social anxiety disorder), mental deceases injunction negative past experiences, or to conform to legal




Why ABSTINANCE (celibacy) is required

According to, a study in U.S.A.
Every year 3 million teens, about 1 in 4 sexually active teens-get a Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD).
Chlamydia and gonorrhea are more common among teens aged 15-19 than any other age group.
In 2005, research showed nearly half of high school students have had sex.


Some studies show that up to 15% of sexually active teenage women are infected with the human papillomavirus (HPV), many with the type of HPV that is linked to cervical cancer (cancer in the part of female genital area ‘uterus’)






When we try to cross the ancient boundaries, led by our ancestors (laxman rekha for sexual behavior) absolutes, principles, and tradition in order to create a new imaginary world based on narcissism (fell in love with his own image) and libertinism (a man who is interested in sexual pleasure and lives immoral life).the whole worlds society will be in danger.


Do not move the ancient boundary stone
set up by your forefathers This is a erosion of moral, cultural, and ethical boundaries in modern society:
By Dr Ram BilasSingh Gurjar

email>rambilassingh@yahoo.com